The Jedi Training Archive
Archivist's Thoughts- 6- Experiences
Written by Jedi Archivist Kethrim

We grow through having experiences. This involves a lot of trying new things, and interacting in different ways with many different people. Sometimes, these are not good experiences, but they help us to grow all the same. The important thing is to look at each experience, whether it seems good or bad, and ask ourselves, what can I learn from this? Even if it was a bad experience, or a failed relationship, if you learn something from it, it will ultimately benefit you.

We must experience many different types of relationships, with many different people. To fully experience the life we are currently in, we must experience as many different relationships as we can: daughter/son, friend, parent, lover, spouse, cosuin, aunt/uncle, etc. Some of the paths we choose do not allow us certain relationships such as lover, spouse, or parent. There is nothing inherently wrong with not being able to experience those sorts of relationship in this lifetime. As long as something is learned from not having had those relationships, it is okay.

Some relationships do not turn out as well as we hoped for them to. This is especially true when talking about friendships. Often we try to make friends with someone, and for whatever reason, it doesn't work out. We can learn as much from a failed relationship as we can from a successful one, and sometimes more. The relationship is not truly a failure unless we learn nothing from it. It seems that some relationships are not meant to last, but serve only as a sort of practice for relationships that we have later in life. If in the bad relationship you hurt the other person in any way, you should apologise to them, and then, even if the relationship does not resurrect itself, you will have closed the circle of that relationship, and you can move on without remorse. If distance or other reasons prevent you from apologising to the person, simply send a thought-message out into the world, and you will have closed the circle for yourself, and you should feel peaceful about the relationship. At this point, you do not need to worry if the other person has closed the circle of your relationship for themself, as you have done your part in the relationship by apologising for any wrongs that you committed, knowingly or unknowingly. Then it is up to the other person to make peace for themself. As long as you learn something, and "close the circle" of the relationship, it is a positive experience.

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